The Innovation of Loneliness – Commentary

Shimi Cohen published a great video about the connection of social media and human’s sense of loneliness.

Watch this video –

The video is masterfully done and the comparisons are smart and accurately pointed. Social media, video games, electronic devices have done amazing things to bring people together, increase efficiency and provide entertainment. Unfortunately they have also created lazy and out of shape kids, distracted spouses and effectively eliminated the need for face-to-face interactions.

Shimi asks “What is the problem in having a conversation? It happens in real time and you can’t control what you are going to say.” People and companies who operate in the same town as I do would rather have an email chain conversation with 12 people cc’d on it that lasts 4 days than take 30 minutes over lunch and discuss everything we would have accomplished in those emails before our entrees arrived at the table. The ability to check, edit, re-check, think “wait, did I cc or bcc the guy who I bashing on this email”, edit and push send is very safe. There isn’t any risk of spouting off or getting off track or thinking that you are only going to embarrass yourself and fail. Failing over an email or a text message feels better.

Don’t “sacrifice conversation for mere connection.” Get out in the world and have a conversation today.



My Unemployment Soundtrack

Being unemployed in a new place where I don’t know many people has been difficult and frustrating. Thank goodness for having a wonderful husband and family and friends to keep me going. As of now I have been out of work for 3 months, although one month doesn’t really count because of the wedding and honeymoon. I’ve found you go through a cycle of emotions and at least for me, a struggle with how to fill your day. The cycle for me has been anger that turns into a depressive sadness. I don’t allow myself to stay sad for long and I become motivated again. When I see a job that seems like it would be a good fit I become very excited but then the waiting game to hear back from an employer starts.

I do not understand how an employer won’t even contact an applicant, even just to tell them that they are not being considered. So, when I’ve been selected for interviews, I’ve been very ecstatic and optimistic. Then the second waiting game starts. The right opportunity will come along, but in the meantime instead of turning this into a diary entry, I figured I’d share my playlist for each of the emotions of unemployment. I should also mention that unemployment leads to watching TONS of crime dramas on TV.

John Mayer – Gravity
Matisyahu – Sunshine
Joni Mitchell – A Case of You
OneRepublic – Feel Again

Angry (Anger doesn’t suit me, so I try calm or fun music)
Ed Sheeran or John Coltrane Pandora station
One Direction – Heart Attack & Rock Me
Mumford & Sons – Babel (the whole album)
Imagine Dragons – Radioactive

Phillip Phillips – Home
Aloe Blacc – I Need a Dollar
Jessie J – Domino
Outasight – I’ll Drink to That
Imagine Dragons – On Top of the World

Any suggestions to add? 🙂

Cheers, Nikki

Fresno Yard House

Currently enjoying a nice Sunday chilling at the Yard House watching the Dodgers and the Olympics. Beer of choice is the Firestone/Walker Union Jack IPA.

Also taking some good me time to review last week at work while also formulating a plan for the upcoming week. So far this has helped me identify things I need to work on an transition into the next week with a better plan of action.

Spent a very fun day visiting 4 wineries just west of town yesterday. Full post will follow this later this evening fresh with photos and reviews.